HEART TO HEAD
"I placed my hand upon my heart
And swore that we would never part.
I wonder what I would have said
Had I placed it on my head?"
Do you remember what you thought your husband would be like when you got married? I do. I was going to get married on the first Sunday in June 1965, wearing white Spanish lace. My man would be six feet tall. He would have dark curly hair and blue eyes. He was going to be a man who was very wealthy and would give me my hearts desire. We would always do things together because we would enjoy doing the same things. We would have four perfect children (2 girls and 2 boys) who would never get in trouble. They, for sure, would not act like the brats up the street.
That was my dream in 1959 when I was 16 years old. I did get married on the first Sunday in June 1965, and I wore white Spanish lace. My husband had dark curly hair (he is bald today) and blue eyes. There the dream ended. My personal choice of a man ruined the rest of the dream.
Maybe God did want me to marry Al; even so, I'm sure He would have wanted me to wait until Al was a Christian. Who knows, he may have met Jesus sooner if I had not been there to get in the way. Only God knows for sure.
The reality of the matter is that we did not marry the men of our dreams and this is what we have to deal with: reality! It seems much better to dream than to face the truth; however, we will never be free unless we face the situation and ourselves.
For a fact, we let our hearts overrule our heads and married men who were not Christians. Though we did not realize the fullness of our mistake until now, we have no doubt that we messed up our lives and probably our children's lives as well.
We placed our hands on our hearts and blew it. Let us place our hands on our heads and get this mess straightened out. Our head knowledge must come from the Bible because it is the only absolute truth left in this world.
From the beginning, God did not want us to marry non-believers. Godly men married ungodly women and they had children. The children were double-minded, torn between believing and not believing in God. Eventually faith became so watered down that it only existed in one man, Noah. And God destroyed the earth. (Gen.6: 1-8; Ro. 8:14-16; Num.23: 19)
Is this why our world has become so evil today? More and more Christians are marrying non-Christians. Jesus said the latter days would be as it was in the days of Noah (Lk. 17: 26-27). He also asked, "Will faith be found on the earth when I return?" (Lk. 18:18) How long before God destroys the earth again?
God knew if we were unequally yoked, our children would be double-minded. He wanted Godly children: He still does.
I have found that sin is not so much an action as it is an attitude. We were proud of our Christianity and felt we could handle anything: we forgot it was Jesus in us and not our doing. We need to examine ourselves and repent so we can draw near to God and do things His way.
No! We can't leave our husbands except for reasons of unfaithfulness (See chapter "For Battered Wives Only"). God has ordained a better way.
We are proud of many things in our lives. We are proud when we do a job well or when we do anything right. Pride should not be a part of our make-up. Pride is the opposite of humble. Jesus wants us to be humble. We are humble when we know who we are and what our limits are. My muscles work properly because I use them; but God gave me the muscles. I can do all things; but, only when I am in Christ Jesus.
We have to realize that we are nothing without Jesus and all He has done for and through us. Instead of being proud of what we can do, we should thank Jesus for helping us do it. If it weren't for Jesus, we wouldn't even be here. We do realize that He created us in the first place. To be humble is to admit it is Jesus who does everything in us and through us and allow Him to take over our lives.
This is what the Sovereign LORD, the Holy One of Israel,
says: "In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness
and trust is your strength, ...." --Isaiah 30:15
Therefore this is what the LORD says: "If you repent, I will
restore you that you may serve me; if you utter worthy,
not worthless, words, you will be my spokesman. ...
Repentance is admitting we have sinned; asking God to forgive us; and a mind set to do the opposite of what we have been doing. We should apologize to anyone we have hurt, ask their forgiveness and make amends if possible.
Repentance is not a feeling - it is a decision. Repent and obey God so your husband can be saved. How do you repent? Ask Jesus to forgive you for marrying your husband. You sinned when you married him because God's word says, "Do not be unequally yoked." Then do what God says you should do to get your husband saved.
"Therefore, O house of Israel, I will judge you, each one according
to his ways, declares the Sovereign LORD. Repent! then sin will
not be your downfall. --Ezekiel 18:30
and if they have a change of heart in the land where they are held
captive, and repent and plead with you in the land of their conquerors
and say we have acted wickedly`; -- 1 Kings 8:47
Should God then reward you on your terms, when you refuse to
repent? You must decide, not I; so tell me what you know. --Job 34:33
Jesus is faithful: He will forgive us if we repent and allow him to work in us. We must realize that we can't trust ourselves by now and put all our trust in Jesus. He will never fail us.
Let's pretend you are riding along with a total stranger. She says "turn at the next corner it's a short-cut. Youíre in a hurry: do you turn or continue on. You don't know her - does she really know a short cut? Would you turn or go the way you know. You would probably not trust the woman because you do not know her.
Now, pretend your best friend is riding with you and you know she is familiar with the area. She tells you to turn at the next corner because it is a short cut. You would believe her because you know her and trust her. You would probably turn without questioning her judgement.
How well do you know Jesus? Do you have a personal relationship with Him? If you don't, you can never trust Him. Maybe you need to pray and ask God to become your personal Lord. He will if you ask.
How do we start to trust Jesus? To trust Jesus and obey Him we simply decide that we are going to do it. We quit trying our methods and decide (set our minds) to do it God's way. The moment we decide to trust and obey God, God begins a wonderful personal relationship with us and we trust Him more and more as we get to know Him.
The more we trust, the closer our relationship grows and the more we obey, the more our trust grows. Itís a wonderful circle of growth that never ends.
You say you believe in Jesus; yet, you have never been baptized? Why not? Even though Baptism does not save you, Jesus said it is to fulfill all righteousness. We go and are baptized because God wants us to. It is a public demonstration of our trust in Jesus.
But John tried to deter him saying "I need to be baptized by you,
and do you come to me?" Jesus replied, "Let it be so now: it is
proper for us to do this to fulfill all righteousness." Then
John consented. --Matthew 3:14-15
And this water symbolizes baptism that now saves you also Ė
not the removal of dirt from the body but the pledge of a good
conscience toward God. It saves you by the resurrection of Jesus
Christ, --1 Peter 3:21
You are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus, for all of you
who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ
You then my son, be strong in the Grace that is in Christ. --2 Tim 2:1
But you, dear friends, build yourselves up in your most holy faith
and pray in the Holy Spirit. --Jud 20
... be on your guard so that you may not be carried away by the
error of lawless men and fall from your secure position, but grow
in the grace and knowledge of our Lord & Savior Jesus Christ. 2 Pe 3:17
Baptism is a pledge of a good conscience - letting God know our intent is to obey Him. When you make public your intent to obey Him by being Baptized, God clothes you with Christ in the form of the Holy Spirit. You already have the Holy Spirit in you from when you accepted Jesus. Now you are also in the Spirit. You can now pray in the Spirit.
Since Grace is in Christ and when you are baptized, you are in Christ. You have the strength of that Grace and can grow in grace and knowledge so men can't deceive you. The Holy Spirit will give you the strength to stand under any burdens put on you and will give you the power to overcome evil with good.
Cheryl waited six years after she was saved to be baptized. She was only on fire for the Lord and full of His Joy after she was baptized. The transformation was awesome. She was unequally yoked and felt oppressed until she followed our Lord in baptism. Afterward, the oppressed feeling lifted.
Walk in God's Grace and He will carry you through the hard times ahead.